Life hands each of us a unique and rich bouquet of qualities, needs, feelings, physical characteristics, capacities, interests, and desires pertaining to sex, gender, and sexuality. Sometimes harshly and sometimes with the best of intentions, society lumps us into broad, often arbitrary categories that confine us and divide us — from key parts of ourselves and from each other. When we step, by nature or by courage, outside of society’s rigid expectations and roles, the response is sometimes a fabulous celebration. Too often though, the response is caustic.

The resulting pain can make it hard to think clearly about who we are and what we want, and can make us feel badly about ourselves and mistrustful of others. It can isolate us and tax our health and vitality. But in the context of supportive relationships, including therapy, we can learn to offload the pain we have carried as a result of social mistreatment, stereotypes, marginalization, and interpersonal trauma. We can learn to inhabit our bodies with joy and ease, build communities of safety and care, and lead with strength, clarity, and compassion in the direction of building a society that works well for everyone.

As a white and Native-heritage cis-gender heterosexual male, I work with clients of all backgrounds to understand well what has shaped us — our strengths and our struggles — how we want to show up in the world in the present, and what impact we want to have moving forward with our lives. I engage my LGBTQIA+ clients from a perspective of humility, drawing on the breadth of what I can see from where I stand and honoring the deep wisdom and knowing that my clients hold from their own lived experiences. I draw on the body’s inherent capacities for emotional healing through evidence-based practices including Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), as well as narrative, somatic, relational, and attachment-oriented approaches. I devote myself to ongoing reflection, training, and processing relating to my own and others’ social identities, constantly examining how I can best leverage my own privilege and challenges to be an effective ally. I have worked with many clients in relation to exploring gender and sexual orientation, coming out, transitioning, consensual nonmonogamy, sexual health, parenting in queer families, workforce discrimination, impacts of religion, recovering from sexual violence, and the intersecionality of LGBTQIA+ identities and other dimensions of social identity.

My counseling style has been described as warm, collaborative, and empowering. I tailor my work to each client’s needs and goals, offering a mix of practical, solution-oriented and research-backed tools, compassionate listening, and profound confidence in each person’s intelligence, beauty, worth, and creative potential. Whether you struggle with depression, anxiety, addiction, PTSD, relational conflict, self-doubt, or just want to live and lead with more energy and purpose, I would be honored to support you in your journey.