You want to maintain your relationship, but you need help from a therapist because you’ve hit a wall. You want a therapist who is emotionally grounded enough to help your relationship(s). You need a therapist prepared to work with all of the intersecting sexual, relationship, and cultural identities in your situation.

I thrive as a therapist working with queer, kinky, and/or poly individuals and relationships. I use sex-positive, affirming approaches. Though you may be queer, the thing you need help with may not be about sexual orientation or identity at all. I can understand your identity and focus on what you need me to focus on.

I regularly get new training in relationship and sexual issues to continue my professional development. I am a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists and the Society for Sex Therapy and Research.

Many people in relationships wait a long time before coming to therapy. Once they do come to couples therapy, they are often seeking changes quickly.

In our first hour, I typically have three goals. First, I try to hear each person’s perspective on the presenting challenge so that everyone has a chance to tell me how therapy can serve the relationship. Second, I listen for the sources of strength and resilience in your relationship so that I can remind you of those reasons to hope. Third, I work with you to create homework for each person in the relationship so you can begin making changes right away. After the first session, I conduct a thorough assessment and collaborative treatment planning to ensure you get out of therapy what you came in for.