I believe most of us live somewhere on a continuum between what we call straight and gay, male and female, monogamous and non-monogamous. These labels may give us acceptance or protect us from stigma, but they often fall short from accurately capturing us in our entirety of the beautiful people that we are. As a psychotherapist, I find that none of these labels capture my identity very well, but I also believe it is so important to affirm the words that resonate for every person. Labels are not inherently bad, as long as there is no pressure to choose one.
About half of my clients identify as LGBTQ+ and about a third as consensually non-monogamous. At University of Pennsylvania, where I earned a master’s in positive psychology, I focused my education in positive sexuality and–while earning my master’s in mental health counseling at Columbia University–I obtained an advanced certificate in sexuality, women and gender focused on LGBTQ+ concerns and consensual non-monogamy in therapy.