Are you queer, trans, questioning, or exploring—perhaps struggling with uncertainty, self-doubt, impostor syndrome, relationship anxiety, or the shadows of the past you cannot seem to shake—and seeking clarity and connection amidst the chaos? You’re in just the right place!

I’m Molly Toomey, LCSW, the human behind Two Torches Therapy. As a queer, gender-expansive, neurodivergent person and trained therapist, I started Two Torches Therapy as a therapeutic home for folks who live and love outside the mainstream but often feel invisible or misunderstood in traditional therapy settings. Whether you’re LGBTQIA+, neurodivergent, romantically or sexually alternative, spiritually alternative, a cultural outsider or status quo questioner, I offer you a space to grapple with big feelings and big questions, explore values and desires, disrupt unhelpful patterns, and move toward greater authenticity and connection with others and yourself.

I specialize in therapeutic support for:
◆ Gender, sexual, & relationship diversity—supporting LGBTQIA+ folks, alternative sexualities and relationship models (yes, I am BDSM/kink-affirming!)
◆ Neurodivergence—supporting folks who are autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, bipolar, and beyond
◆ Trauma—supporting folks grappling with very difficult childhoods or traumatic experiences with others from earlier in life
◆ …and others who tick differently, including those who are spiritually alternative and involved in subcultures (witchy folks welcome!).

My ultimate goal is to help you move toward YOUR goals—supporting you in rewiring your brain for greater self-confidence and healthy, secure, stable connection along the way. Importantly, with me you don’t need to explain your existence or justify your lifestyle! We can focus instead on your goals and your process, at your own pace.

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Why Two Torches Therapy:

If you’re tired of cold, clinical therapy or “blank-slate” therapists you cannot read, I may be a good fit for you. My relational approach to therapy is down-to-earth, very collaborative, and deeply human! Relationships cause hurt for so many of us, whether our relationships with our parents or caregivers, with people who violated our trust (or our bodies), with present partners or friends, or even with parts of ourselves that we struggle to accept or love. A relational approach says that what was hurt in relationship, heals in relationship—and it starts with the therapy relationship: you and me. This means that therapy with me isn’t just about “skill-building” or guided activities, and there will never be “homework” unless you really want it! Instead, we’ll explore how past and present “attachments” (important relationships) affect you and show up in your current relationships, work through ruptures and conflict (with others and with each other!), and test-drive new ways of communicating and relating. You’ll develop healthier blueprints for connection—experiencing and experimenting with them in real-time, in session with me.

Deep, genuine, attuned connection can help us heal from relational wounds and live our most authentic, fulfilling lives, and I would love to help you get there!

I am also unapologetically queer- and trans-affirming, neuro-affirming, kink-affirming, and sex-positive. To me, being affirming is an active process: it means recognizing and respecting my clients’ identities and autonomy, and actively working to create an inviting, supportive space for them to be their full selves without judgment while gently dismantling internalized shame and stigma. It also means recognizing both the challenges and barriers you face due to your identities or lifestyle, as well as the potential strength, empowerment, joy, and hope within them.

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My own journey:

I’ve been in the business of helping people since 2010. Through clinical social work, psychotherapy, counseling, sex education, and community advocacy, I’ve helped hundreds of people of all ages move toward inner clarity, confidence, connection, and liberation, working across gender and sexuality, language, culture, and country borders. Years of personal struggle with coming out and self-acceptance of my sexual orientation and gender identity have heavily shaped what I do and how I work. I started out as a community-based sexuality educator and sexual health counselor with emphasis on LGBTQIA+ youth and young adults, then brought this passion into my training and professional work as a community-based therapist and clinical social worker. I spearheaded initiatives to connect LGBTQ+ kids and parents to social and psychological support and community and worked to shatter stigma about LGBTQ+ identity and living outside the sexual/gender box. I continued my work with LGBTQIA+ folks and immigrants after immigrating myself as an adult. I now support folks both in Connecticut and outside the U.S., with a focus on Gender, Sexual, and Relationship Diverse (GSRD) communities, neurodivergent folks, and immigrants/expats, especially those with trauma histories or difficult childhoods.

Therapy is incredibly vulnerable and difficult work, especially when you’re used to living on the margins and are often misunderstood or have to explain yourself to your providers. I work hard to meet you where you’re at and to provide a warm, affirming landing pad for figuring yourself out and taking steps toward self-compassion and healing, and I draw on both my personal and professional experiences to do this, including:
◆ Years of experience as a therapist and community-based social worker focused on trauma, sexuality/gender identity, and culture
◆ Intensive graduate-level clinical training in trauma-informed psychotherapy/clinical social work, with a focus on LGBTQIA+ folks and trauma
◆ Lived experience as a queer, gender-expansive, neurodivergent person with personal experience with non-traditional relationship structures (ENM- and kink/BDSM-friendly)
◆ Years of community work in sexuality education, community organizing, and immigrant rights

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How I can help you:

With me, you’ll find support for navigating big life changes, big feelings, and big questions about yourself. I can help you to:
◆ Gain deep insight on your past and understand your present relationships and patterns
◆ Gently confront what may be holding you back or keeping you stuck in unhelpful cycles
◆ Navigate acute stresses and big life transitions—relationships ending, moving, coming out, transitioning
◆ Explore your identities, values, unmet needs, desires, and what authentic living could look like for you
◆ Strengthen your boundaries, communication, and ability to safely deal with big feelings
◆ Tap into your existing strengths, build resources and community
◆ Start to heal from the bruises of the past
◆ Move towards kinder, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships with yourself and others
◆ Get out of “survival mode” and into your life
and more.

I want to support you in the language(s) you feel most comfortable expressing yourself in! I can offer you support in English, German, and Spanish.

Please visit my website to learn more about who I am and what I have to offer you: twotorchestherapy.com

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If you’re feeling ready to get un-stuck, gain clarity, understand your patterns, explore your identities and desires, and experience what it’s like to feel more joyful, connected, and whole, I’d love to join you for the journey! You can start by booking a free, non-binding introductory call with me.

**How to book your free intro call:**
You can book a 30-minute call with me by:
Messaging me here on OutCare,
Visiting my website and choosing one of the booking options here: http://twotorchestherapy.com/#book
Or emailing me directly at: molly@twotorchestherapy.com

You deserve clarity, joy, freedom, peace, and the confidence to take up space and be who you are. I want to help you get there. Let’s connect!