Hi! I’m Molly Toomey, MSW, LCSW. I’m a queer American therapist, U.S.-licensed clinical social worker, and migrant living in Germany. As an immigrant to Germany raised in the U.S., I work online with international clients from my home base in Germany, where I am a psychosocial counselor and state-recognized social worker. I am also a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in Connecticut, USA, and I welcome counseling clients who currently live in CT.

My mission is to provide affirming, accessible, trauma-informed therapeutic support to LGBTQIA+ individuals and others who live outside the mainstream and often feel misunderstood or unseen by their providers—to offer an affirming, safer space for folks to reflect, explore, feel the feelings, experiment, learn, heal, and grow. I am passionate about the intersections of mental health and social justice and am here to disrupt the usual therapist/client dynamics through radically relational, affirming mental health support and education.

I specialize in supporting folks grappling with personal transitions, identity and belonging, and trauma or painful pasts. Whether you’re LGBTQIA+ or questioning, an immigrant or expat, neurodivergent (ADHD, autistic, AuDHD, bipolar and beyond), or someone practicing alternative sexuality or relationship models—or you’re looking to move forward from trauma or just trying to get “un-stuck” from your current patterns—I’m experienced, skilled, and ready to help you step into the life you want (and deserve!).

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I’ve been in the business of helping people since 2010. Through clinical social work, psychotherapy, counseling, sex education, and community advocacy, I’ve helped hundreds of people of all ages move toward inner clarity, confidence, connection, and liberation, working across gender and sexuality, language, culture, and country borders. Years of personal struggle with coming out and self-acceptance of my sexual orientation and gender identity have heavily shaped what I do and how I work. I started out as a community-based sexuality educator and sexual health counselor with emphasis on LGBTQIA+ individuals, then brought this passion into my training and professional work as a community-based therapist and clinical social worker. I spearheaded initiatives to connect LGBTQ+ kids and parents to social and psychological support and community and worked to shatter stigma about LGBTQ+ identity and living outside the sexual/gender box. I continued my work with LGBTQ+ folks after moving to Germany in 2022, where I now have a private practice focused on supporting migrants and expats, LGBTQIA+ / Gender, Sexual, and Relationship Diverse (GSRD) communities, and neurodivergent folks. I work holistically, supporting my communities through individual counseling, social work, and advocacy.

My counseling approach draws from intensive training in psychodynamic psychotherapy, relational work, and a systemic, intersectional lens: I believe that our relationships and the systems we’re in shape how we live and love, and that deep, genuine, attuned connection helps us heal from relational wounds and live our most authentic, fulfilling lives. I am unapologetically queer- and trans-affirming, neuro-affirming, kink-affirming, and sex-positive. To me, being affirming is an active process: it means recognizing and respecting my clients’ identities and autonomy, and actively working to create an inviting, supportive space for them to be their full selves without judgment while gently dismantling internalized shame and stigma. My approach is also informed by my own lived experiences as someone from a low-income background, a neurodivergent queer person with alternative lifestyle practices, someone who’s been both the majority and the minority, the local and the foreigner. I personally get what it’s like to be “in-between” and struggle with identity, community, belonging. Counseling with me is a space where you get to be who you are (whether queer, trans, questioning, or exploring!), find community with someone who “gets it” personally and professionally, and belong.

With me, you’ll find support for navigating big life changes, big feelings, and big questions about yourself. I can help you to:
– Gain deep insight on your past and understand your present relationships and patterns
– Gently confront what may be holding you back or keeping you stuck in unhelpful cycles
– Navigate acute stresses and big life transitions—international moves, culture shock, coming out
– Explore your identities, values, unmet needs, desires, and what authentic living could look like for you
– Strengthen your boundaries, communication, and ability to safely deal with big feelings
– Tap into your existing strengths, build resources and community
– Start to heal from the bruises of the past
– Move towards kinder, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships with yourself and others
– Get out of “survival mode” and into your life
and more, in your own language. I am a native English speaker and also speak German and Spanish.

Please visit my website to learn more about who I am and what I have to offer you: counselingwithmolly.com

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To me, affirming care is also competent care. I draw on my knowledge and training from my master’s-level education, supervised clinical practice, and continuing education to provide care that is competent, high-quality, and ethical. Here are some of my qualifications:

EDUCATION:
Master of Social Work (2016) – Smith College School for Social Work – Northampton, MA, USA
B.A. Sociology (2010) – Amherst College – Amherst, MA, USA

PROFESSIONAL ACCREDITATION:
Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) – Connecticut, USA (active) – License #15933
State-recognized Social Worker / Staatlich anerkannte Sozialarbeiterin – Germany (active)
Licensed Indep. Clinical Social Worker (LICSW) – Massachusetts, USA (2021-2023)
Licensed Certified Social Worker (LCSW) – Massachusetts, USA (2017-2021)

FURTHER TRAINING:
Trauma-informed care & assessment
LGBTQIA+ mental health and sexual health
Gender, Sex & Relationship Diversity
Neurodiversity-affirming therapy
Kink-affirming practice
and more.

PROFESSIONAL EXPERIENCE:
Private practice (current)
Community-based clinical social work: Individual outpatient therapy, counseling, groups, crisis intervention, case coordination, LGBTQ+ mental health support
Clinical internships (1,920 hours): Individual & group psychotherapy, counseling, crisis intervention, LGBTQ+ mental health support
Intensive 1:1 psychosocial support & trauma-informed group care
Sexuality education, sexual health counseling, community organizing & outreach

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If you’re feeling ready to get un-stuck, gain clarity, understand your patterns, explore your identities and desires, and experience what it’s like to feel more joyful, connected, and whole, I’d love to join you for the journey! You can start by booking a free, non-binding introductory call with me.

**How to book your free intro call:**
You can book a 30-minute call with me by:
Messaging me here on OutCare,
Visiting my website and choosing one of the booking options here: https://counselingwithmolly.com/#book
Or emailing me directly at: hello@counselingwithmolly.com

You deserve clarity, joy, freedom, peace, and the confidence to take up space and be who you are. I want to help you get there. Let’s connect!